The little Prince

I read a cute story "The little prince"..Initially, it seems like a story book for kids. But as I go through, I realised it is upside down directed. It seems like a story of each human. Putting this story into my persepective - Everyone has some part of innocence and linear perspective as a child somewhere hidden inside the heart, you could say eitherways, a feet of clay or diamond in the rough. But, due to regular feeling of being responsible, intelligence, competition and awareness that child lay low and only yield up when you are all alone, away from all worries and from the world of grown up.

This is what I interpreted by the story, but if anyone else has any other view, then I would like to bone up myself on the topic.

Few Things Parents should not do

According to me parenting is the most difficult task of the world. Despite not being a parent, I can say that because I have observed children’s psychology very closely, their actions and reactions on everything, going around. After being a parent, one have to keep check and bounds on each and every action you are doing in front of a child.
Family is the primary school and parents are super people for children, they grow-up with the impression that their parents can do anything. The children have faith on the concept that "my parents are with me in any condition and forever”. Few points what I feel, that a parent should consider are:

1. Your actions speak for you: It is common rule, your personality can be adjudged by your actions and if the child is involved as a judge, then it become very important to keep an eye on your each activity because he keep a very vigilant eye or I could say scrutinize the parent as no one in this world can do. As discussed before those parents are the ideal for them. He tries to copy or be just as his parents are. Being very to the point that is the basic reason why a human need a kid, everyone wants his legacy to passes through. Now and then, a child adopts the characteristics as his parents are. If a father smoker, a child becomes a smoker, if a mother talkative a child becomes same and so on. So, the most important and the foremost quality of being a good parent is always be focused on what qualities you want to be imbedded in your child and how you want them to be raised up.” Have check on yourself, because verbally or non-verbally you are passing a message to you kid for his future”. Always keep in mind home is the first school for them...
2. Always provide them answers: Children always have lots of queries, they always in search of the answers how, why, what and then.. They are the most enthusiastic and have investigative nature, want to learn everything. Required also, they way to success. They first go to their parent because parents are the SPOC (single point of contact) whom they can rely and have faith, if due to any reason parents do not provide the answer or ignore their question they start searching another one to get solution and loose faith in their parents. Think of that child never stop asking questions.
3. Give them treasure, your time: A story what I can remember is "There was a doctor, always busy in his patients, researches and work. He had a son. That son always wants to be with father but father give him lucrative things and try to avoid. One day son came to hi asked to play, as in habit he replied son I’ll bring a toy and you can play with that. Son asked him, dad how much that toy would cost. Father replies depends may be 50 bucks. Then child asked to pay him money and he won't disturb him. Dad got surprised but gave him money. He came back after an hour and start disturbing his father again. Father said that i gave you money and you still disturbing me. He replied Dad gives me more 40 bucks and then I’ll not disturb you. Dad looked him with anger and shouted you are bargaining to me. Then the son replied very innocently, Dad I read on board that you charge 100bucks and hour, I have 60bucks have 40 bucks less. If I'll pay you 100 bucks then you will be with me for an hour and play with me." This story is self-explanatory that how much a kid requires being with parent. It is true that in the normal hurly-burly of parenting, of course, there are times when father and mother has to tell a child to wait until later. But a persistent pattern of putting him off can leave a lasting impact.
4. Abstain yourself to be over protective: Metamorphosis is law of nature, you can't make one strong, until and unless, you provide them ample space for struggle. The capacious problem of parents, that they deal and wanted the child to be dealt gently. It's true that a child needs help and protection at times, but too much of anything spoils everything. The best strategy is balance among everything. This makes a child namby-pamby and does not give a right environment to find out/see how the land lies.
5. Show care, not weakness: Children the innocent and sophisticated are the one who know the quickest, fastest and easiest way to get things done. So, if you show them your Achilles’ heal once, they'll always have a bigger fish to fry. Always be strong on your point with reasonable space for them, but never fulfill their immoderate demands otherwise you will push the envelope.
6. Don't count faults with praise: Kevin Leman, a psychologist warns never to "should" or "do it" a child. Don't be an improver or an administrator. When praise is mixed with criticism, kids tend to focus on the down side. Hurt by their parents who constantly put them down; kids become the sullen and withdrawn. Being harsh or showing them their mistake, it is better off to have a healthy talk with a kid about what went wrong and what to do about it. Even a constructive criticism can sting when it's delivered at the wrong moment, for that, avoid giving immediate feedback. The best thing is to put your effort into discussing the child's feeling and working together on ways to improve his performance.
7. Don't bring to heel or beat down: Psychology studies say that like false compliments false threats undermine parent credibility. Try to replace the threat with a promise. Rather than threatening to leave your child behind when he dawdles in public place, try to take his attention to some good things. like Let's get home quickly so we'll have time to play. The concept is to build motivation and encourage the desired behavior. Emphasizing the positive by giving the kid a logical reason for doing something works with the children of nearly every age.
   As we try to sort out which type of behavior and actions are harmful or children, it helps to keep in mind some advice from Shirley Gould, a psychotherapist: "Children respond best to those acts and words that they perceive as encouraging, and worst to punishment and degrading comments, which inflict discouragement. Encouragement enables. A discouragement disables. In the same way, act are more powerful then words, all bark and no bite wind up in spoiling a child.